Talk to Someone

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Are you struggling to control your emotions? 

Are you experiencing feelings of anger towards your parents, carers or other members of your family?

Do you feel like you’re sometimes getting angry or violent?

It’s perfectly normal to experience these types of feelings, but it can become a problem if it starts to affect your behaviour towards others, particularly those who are caring for you.

If you find yourself doing any of the below, it’s important that you talk to someone and get some support:

  • Hitting or physically hurting people 
  • Shouting at people
  • Losing control 
  • Breaking things
  • Controlling or threatening people

There are lots of reasons why young people can have feelings of anger and you may demonstrate them in different ways, but there are also ways to try and manage your anger. Some of the websites below have lots of advice on things you can try to do to help with this.

It may also help to talk about how you’re feeling, this could be with someone you know, such as family or friends, or you could talk to a teacher, counsellor or nurse at school. You can also see your doctor.

There are a variety of local and national helplines that you can call - if you would prefer to remain anonymous. Some of these organisations also offer text or email services if you would rather not speak on the phone.

Life can be frustrating. Get help before you hurt someone you love.

Where to get support

Useful websites

Local helplines

  • Night Owls – 0808 800 1212 (available 8pm – 8am every day)
  • The Market Place, Leeds – 0113 246 1659

National Helplines

  • Childline – 0800 1111
  • Samaritans – 116 123
  • The Mix – 0808 808 4994


Advice for Parents

The below websites and helplines can offer support and advice to parents or carers who are worried about their child’s behaviour or mental health.

If a crime is in progress or there is a danger to life, always call 999 immediately.

Before you see RED, TALK to someone instead


Page last reviewed November 2021.

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