Domestic Abuse – if you are worried about your behaviour

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, and can take many different forms.  Many people think that this just involved physical violence, but it can also include psychological, physical, sexual, financial or emotional abuse.

Controlling acts may include, but not be exclusive to, manipulation, intimidation, sexual coercion and psychological abuse. The behaviour is intended to make a person become submissive, or to isolate them from sources of support, such as their friends and family. It might include monitoring their time, or communication with others, including checking someone’s mobile phone or online communication.

It could also be exploiting their resources, such as their wages or access to money, depriving them of their independence and trying to regulate or control every day behaviour such as where they can go, who they can see and what to wear.

It may be stopping someone accessing specialist support services, repeatedly putting them down, humiliating or degrading them and making threats to hurt them or their children, or publish private information about them.

Something that may seem like harmless behaviour in isolation, can have devastating effects on a victim when they are subjected to repeated controlling behaviour. We would encourage people to speak to someone about any behaviour that is concerning them, all reports will be treated sensitively and taken seriously.

If any of this sounds familiar to you, and you are worried that your behaviour has developed into domestic abuse, help is at hand to provide advice and support and there is still time to change.

Domestic abuse can ruin lives and tear families apart, but it doesn’t always have to be this way. The earlier someone seeks help to understand their own behaviour and change it for the better, the more chance that they can keep their family together.

It’s understandable that someone who is being abusive, may not want to get in touch with the police, but there are lots of organisations who are completely independent of the police, who can help and these are listed below ;
 

• Respect  
  Tel: 0808 802 4040 (Mon to Fri 9.00am to 5.00pm) Free from landlines and most mobile phones.
  Email: [email protected]
  www.respectphoneline.org.uk
   
• Samaritans
  Tel: 116 123
  www.samaritans.org
   
• Yorkshire Children’s Centre
  https://yorkshirechildrenscentre.org.uk/contact-faq/
   

Bradford

• Survive and Thrive
  Tel: 08082800999
  https://womencentre.org.uk/bradford-survive-thrive/
    
• Project 6
  Tel: 01535 610180
  Email: [email protected]
  www.project6.org.uk
   

Calderdale

• Pennine Domestic Abuse Partnership 
  https://pdap.co.uk/
   
• Women Centre
  https://womencentre.org.uk/calderdale/
   

Kirklees

• Pennine Domestic Abuse Partnership 
  https://pdap.co.uk/
   

Leeds

• Leeds Domestic Violence Service
  Tel: 0113 2460401
  www.leeds.gov.uk/domesticviolence
   
• Forward Leeds
  Alcohol & drug service for people in Leeds
  Tel: 0113 8872477
  www.forwardleeds.co.uk
   

Wakefield

• Wakefield Domestic Abuse Service
  Tel: 0800 915 1561 (Available 7 days a week)
   
• Rosalie Ryrie
  Tel: 01924 315140
  Email: [email protected]
  www.rosalieryriefoundation.org.uk

 

Help for Victims of Domestic Abuse

If you are a victim of domestic abuse please click here for more information and contacts who can provide help.